Seriously disheartened by my followers

Hi. So I have a few accounts I’ve been trying to post to about twice a day, on tumblr, tik tok, and instagram. I like posting fashion content and my makeup. I’m not sure what kind of reaction or following I’m hoping for, but a majority of my audience is men, and it’s kind of disheartening. I get that maybe some people could see me outfits as salacious, or I’m just a cute girl online, whatever, but I feel like I’m trying really hard to have some campiness and consistency with my aesthetic throughout the content I post, only to have a bunch of comments b like ‘let me show u my bbc😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍’. It’s starting to suck the fun out of doing this. Some women follow me, but it’s not tons. Any advice? Maybe other platforms I should use?

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lilheckraiser•28 days ago•2

Lean into more feminist content, there are cute and funny ways to make it known in your reels/tiktoks that you want more girlies and that your male audience is creeping you out. Ragebaiting men might even make your posts blow up in the best way.

slaaneshi_cutie•28 days ago•1

Hey, I lost queer political stuff. My advice is that you good use the block button some more.

Just block everyone who posts something you dont want to see in your comments. It makes three sections safer for the girlies and the queers.

wesdacar•28 days ago•1

That sounds really draining, especially when the audience response does not match what you are trying to make.

A few things I would try before switching platforms entirely:

  1. Make the framing more explicit. If the point is camp, fashion references, styling, makeup technique, or character, put that in the caption and on-screen text so the content gets categorized beyond just "attractive person in outfit."
  2. Build series that women are more likely to recognize and follow for. Examples: styling one piece three ways, makeup inspired by specific eras, thrifted outfit breakdowns, getting-ready themes, what worked and what did not.
  3. Use comment filters aggressively. Filtering certain words and phrases is not being dramatic, it is protecting the space you are trying to build.
  4. Spend some time engaging with adjacent accounts that already have the audience you want: fashion history, alt makeup, camp styling, creators with mostly women commenting. That can help the platform understand the neighborhood you belong in.
  5. Test Pinterest or YouTube Shorts for the more aesthetic/reference-heavy pieces. Instagram and TikTok can work, but Pinterest often rewards style boards and searchable visual ideas differently.

I would not take the current follower mix as proof that the content is wrong. It may just mean the signals around the content need to be more intentional so the right people know why they should stay.

Honeyglows_inthedark•28 days ago•1

Maybe make it explicit in your content that this kind of audience is bothering you and you need women to help you

Shoddy_Piece_5931•28 days ago•1

I think a lot of creators eventually run into this problem.

The audience you attract isn't always the audience you want. Social platforms are extremely good at finding people who will engage, but not necessarily people who appreciate the work the way you do.

If your content focuses on fashion, makeup and aesthetics, some percentage of male followers is inevitable. The real question is whether people are engaging with your style and creativity, or just with your appearance.

I'd pay attention to the women who do follow and engage. What content are they responding to? Sometimes the audience you want is already there, just quieter than the loud weirdos in the comments.

lovealwayskota•28 days ago•1

SO many AI answers in this feed.

The truth is, social media is really tough right now. I have 30k followers on tiktok and I get 50 views. I have 4k followers on both my personal and business fb pages.. I'm lucky if I get 3 likes. It's not because I suck. It's not because my posts are good. The algorithm isn't on our side anymore.

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Professional_Metal57•28 days ago•1

Remove such followers and block such men. I do that too, initially got a bunch of bot followers and men, I removed both types of followers. And since then it got better. I no longer get bot followers and very little men see my post. I think this helps algorithm understand this was not your audience and work on actually finding one.

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