kirsten (lil_tachy) and alyssa (alyssamarietv)

has anyone heard of this ongoing drama between these two?

for those of you who don’t know: i will do my level best to summarize what i’ve understood from both of their videos.

kirsten is a prominent creator on tt who’s gone viral on numerous occasions over her ‘crazy ex from hell’ series. she’s made around 87 parts (115 posts) detailing the mental and physical abuse her ex fiancé put her through, and goes into great depth on how that trauma affected her as a person.

alyssa is a creator that summarizes multi-part series in condensed videos, picking apart the main details and delivering the gist of the story in short videos. she recently made a seven part series summarizing kirsten’s crazy ex from hell series because her fans had been tagging her under alyssa’s videos.

the issue mainly started after kirsten went on tiktok live and spoke of alyssa’s videos to her viewers. now, according to kirsten in a later video in which she clarified what she said in the live, she was uncomfortable with alyssa using her trauma as content, making money off of said content, and not filtering and actively deleting negative comments under her videos. she was also upset that alyssa didn’t ask her for permission before uploading her summaries on her ‘crazy ex from hell’ series.

however, kirsten had only posted her clarification after alyssa had made a video talking about how she received multiple DMs from people who were on that live, stating that kirsten had been talking about alyssa and her series during the stream. alyssa had found out that kirsten was uncomfortable with alyssa not asking for permission and over how she wasn’t filtering the negative comments off of her page. alyssa expressed confusion over kirsten’s statements because kirsten had previously commented under the first part of alyssa’s summary, praising her for accurately condensing her story. alyssa also said that she would have rather had kirsten DM her of her feelings rather than speaking on live, since kirsten had repeatedly emphasized to her viewers that they were not supposed to DM or reach out to alyssa about the things she was saying on live.

kirsten stated that while she was initially happy with the summary, she began to feel uneasy about the reality of the situation once she went through the comments and saw people were victim blaming her. she wasn’t comfortable with her trauma being used as entertainment for people to debate over, nor all the context she’d provided in her 87 part series being left out.

alyssa had explained in her video that she couldn’t individually sit through and manually delete every negative comment off of the seven part series, given that it had amassed thousands of comments and how she has a life and is unable to dedicate that amount of time obsessing over what people say. kirsten however believes that if she can listen to and summarize all 87 parts of her story, then alyssa is perfectly capable of deleting negative comments under her posts.

kirsten also expressed that she was uncomfortable not being able to control what people said about her and her life. she wasn’t happy that alyssa didn’t ask her for consent, didn’t tag her in her video, and didn’t delete the negative comments that amassed under them. she also posted a clip of her live stream, though it was short and didn’t include her telling the viewers not to reach out to alyssa like alyssa claimed to have been told.

both creators have told their fans not to send hate to each other, though when has the internet ever listened?

i wanted to hear an actual neutral take on this rather than hearing from either alyssa or kirsten’s fans. as someone who enjoys both of their content, i can see where both sides are coming from, though i do think this entire thing is happening due to miscommunication between both alyssa and kirsten. right now, it feels more like a he-said she-said type situation.