@DadBodThicc - Feedism kink and Parasocial abuse
I'm not sure if this is the best place to spill the tea, but I couldn't find a more appropriate Reddit page, so here I am.
This TikTok creator, DadBodThicc, and I were in contact via DMs for a few months.
DadBodThicc is a "body positive" creator who is actually into the Feedism kink. That part is not the issue I have with him, though.
Throughout the months that we were DMing, we were trading nudes and sexting. He's also an OF creator in addition to TikTok/IG.
Throughout our months of communication, I did feel that the Parasocial relationship had gotten a bit out of hand. DadBod was controlling and manipulative in our interactions. While he never directly asked me for money or nudes, I did feel that this creator/fan interaction was inappropriate and irresponsible, mainly on his end. I repeatedly tried to ask him about healthy boundaries, a conversation that was shut down almost immediately several times. While he never directly solicited me for OF/Venmo tips, the quality and quantity of the interactions often increased immediately after I sent him money. I do believe his manipulation was subtle but present. He also used the kink to encourage me to give him more money, eg, "Every dollar goes straight towards fattening my belly."
When I told him that I felt manipulated by his behavior I was met with a lot of, "I'm sorry you feel this way" and, "I'm just out here living my best life" type responses. He continues to refuse to acknowledge the Parasocial nature of our interactions and the power imbalance. He even said that maybe we went "too hard too fast" with our sexting/kink interactions.
I feel frustrated and somewhat tired, especially of the gaslighting and deflections. I feel somewhat taken for a ride for the past few months.
Sharing this in hopes of my story helping other fans avoid DadBod and other predatory content creators.
