The implications of being a guest.

If it's any consolation, I've been seeing multiple posts sadly wondering if the Americans have all gone back to TikTok and asking if any of us are still on RedNote. So there's plenty of users that are happy to have us. I've made friends and joined group chats; there's no reason for me to assume I'm no longer welcome

Just like any guest-host situation (or maybe any human-human interaction), if you show real interest in each other's way of life, the easier it is to become part of the community. I believe it was Trevor Noah that said the best way to gain trust is to ask for help... or something like that.

The history of China is invaders coming to China to control it and becoming Chinese themselves instead.

I don’t know but I just found out what “zero dollar sale is”….needless to say that one hurt

As the Chinese slang says, “Ordinary and plainness are what real life would be like”. You are being accepted when you stop receiving compliments and kindness out of courtesy and even get complaints about your actions.

What subtle cultural queues do the Chinese use to indicate that your welcome is wearing thin?

I'm Chinese and... trust me, if you've overstayed your welcome, you'd know. Because people would either just directly ask when you're leaving or just tell you to leave now. See, once people no longer want your presence in their circle, they don't feel the need to be overly nice to your anymore.

How do you transition from a guest to a peer gracefully in this community?

When you get invited to stuff like "Come join my group chat" or "Come hang out with us here" and when they joke with you like they would with their friends in their own social circle. Like if they stop singing praises of your every move and start being candid with you. That means sometimes, they might get snarky with you or be blunt (not necessarily cruel and rude, mind you) with you when you ask for their opinion

It’s social media. You are not a guest, you just occupy a corner of it.