So understanding you’re not fit to care for a child and giving it away is bad now?

why is her being an amputee meaningful?

Why am I being recommended anti-choice ragebait

The foster system isn't kind to kids with disabilities. Which is the OPs point.

Also wtf is "she claims she's an amputee" supposed to lend to the conversation

I wonder if she’s a maggat. Anyway, why would you wish someone to rot? LOL. Chill out girl.

I can understand her point.

If you're choosing to have children, that is. I can understand a parent that ends up having a child with immense disabilities and ends up giving them up for adoption, and I wouldn't blame them personally.

However, if before you ever even have a child, if your first instinct is that if they were disabled or had special needs of any sort that you would immediately give them up for adoption? Full stop you probably shouldn't have kids. "Rot" is a bit strong, but you aren't fit to be a parent IMO.

she just hates women

If you don’t think you could take care of a special needs kid, I don’t think you should have children. You just never know. Adopt instead. Getting pregnant very obviously comes with a bunch of risks. If you aren’t prepared to accept those risks, you shouldn’t get pregnant or you shouldn’t get your partner pregnant

That said, I don’t think that says anything bad about you or makes you a bad person. Definitely not every person is equipped to care for a special needs child. Hell, a significant portion of people with children aren’t equipped to care for children, period. The world would be a better place if those people could realize that and take steps not to put themselves in a position where they have to care for a child.

If you are not equipped to have a disabled child, I do think you shouldn't have kids personally. Disability could happen to anyone at any time. You're going to give up an 8 year old with an amputation? What about the 4 year old who just got diagnosed with autism? The 6 year old who suffered a TBI in an accident?

Don't get me wrong, I am NOT anti-choice. If you get pregnant and want to terminate for ANY reason, I am 100% behind you. But if your only way to parent is to hope your kids are NEVER disabled, that's a hell of a gamble and I agree maybe not cut out to be a parent. There are so many unknowns in life.

there’s a right and a wrong way to give up children, i’d need to see the whole clip or video before i say either one is wrong

Some people are not made to be special needs parents, good for them for recognizing that! People that keep kids they cannot handle usually end up regretting and abusing their child.