“It’s not even that” sends me into a Hulk rage

I feel this so often with some people. Talking with them is like trying to understand a squirrel. None of the decisions make sense, none of the situations sound like they even needed to happen, and then the person telling the story is the bad guy and wants you to tell them they're the good guy.

I stopped talking to a guy because he was like this. Casual conversation contrarian.

'I hear you' covers all bases

You aren't agreeing, disagreeing, giving advice or getting too involved. Its sounds positive and it does the trick

my old boss right there, trauma dumping and dont even wanna listen to what i have to say about it

You have to drop the old "I understand. "

I feel like people that do this want so hard for their struggle to feel unique and unrelatable. They don't want to feel a sense of connection and empathy, they want to feel special for the problems they are going through.

So when you give them advice they either take offense that someone is trying to make their problems feel less special and/or they ignore the advice because following it would solve their problem, and also make them feel less special.

some people just want to argue. they suck.

i mean, i've been in one of those moods, but then i realize i'm just being a dick and need to stop taking it out on people trying to help me

i guess some people never get to the 'realize' part

Me being an empathetic ADHDer with a large vocabulary getting my gentle word suggestions smacked down while my terrible ex-boss just loooved trailing off mid-sentence and expecting me to sit there like a human dial-tone while she searches for the rest of the thought she hadn’t fully constructed before she opened her mouth to lecture me.

Babe I’m trying to understand where you’re going with this but it doesn’t seem like you even know.

That's when you drop the ole "God will guide you" & then walk away from ever having to talk to them again.

I have a coworker that just compulsively disagrees with anything anyone says, even when they're trying to sympathize or agree with them.

Some people are just like that, I dunno what's wrong with them.