Why am I so often ostracized on TikTok and social media sites?

Please don’t seek validation from sources outside of yourself.

Also, don’t forget, there’s millions of TikTok’s posted daily, and TikTok only seems to promote certain ones so don’t take it personally.

Meet people in real life.

Genuinely trying to help here. Maybe try figuring out why you need to be validated by strangers on the internet. Social media can be toxic when consumed at unhealthy levels, and turn into a never ending cycle of dopamine over load and eventually depletion.

Because being hateful online is easier than getting therapy.

Don’t take it personally. Seek out spaces you know will be fostering of your self esteem instead of destroying it. Find ways to practice self-validation to begin sourcing your self esteem from an inner security and peace, but don’t feel bad for enjoying compliments and validation from others.

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Social media is toxic at every age. Coming from a gen x’er ❤️

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It sucks being online sometimes. But stick with it, you'll find your people I promise. If I may suggest, maybe tumblr might have more what you're looking for? I like it there quite a lot and it's honestly the least toxic platform I'm on. It still has issues, sure but it's much easier to find people to talk to and share interests with. It's very nice. And as far as views go, it's all the luck of the draw at this point. Yeah, there are strategies to help but even then, if everyone is doing the same thing, the fyp can only show so many people at once. I post clips of my husband's gaming streams, and we're lucky to get a couple hundred views in maybe a week? I put all the relevant and 'helpful' tags, try to stick to interesting content people would like to look at, pick times that seem to gain the most activity, etc. And it just doesn't land sometimes. But if it's something you want to keep pursuing, do it! One other nugget of advice I'll give: when creating ANYTHING, whether is videos, writing, art, whatever, do it for yourself above all else. Views and follows and comments are nice and all, but you should do this because it makes YOU happy. It can be disheartening to not get as much attention as others online. And honestly, you might never get to the level you'd like to be at. And that's OKAY. I promise, as long as you're enjoying what you're doing, nothing else matters nearly as much. I learned that the hard way, but it's important to remember.

There is probably nothing wrong with you besides trying to seek validation on social media. Just be you!

Seeking validation or basing your self worth off of internet engagement is very toxic. Most of those big or medium sized tiktokers didn't get there based on merit. A lot of them get there by paying bot farms to push their content to fool you into thinking they're popular until real people start engaging and they can make money.

You're fine, you're normal, you're young, it is gonna be fine!