Dry Wedding Discourse

Absolutely not. I find this to be soooo disrespectful and foul to invite more people than you can’t feed. 😨😨 so they invited you to the ceremony but then told you to go home when the reception began? Or they just told you to get food elsewhere??? It’s not traditional at all for American weddings to break up the ceremony and reception into different guest lists but if they did, normally they would do a small guest list for the ceremony and dinner then invite extra guests for the dancing and dessert only.

I never went to a wedding with alcohol until I was about 30. I’m from Mississippi and dry wedding were the only kind I ever knew. However, everyone got fed. If you can’t feed everyone then you just have cake and mints for everyone. If you can’t do that, you shouldn’t have a reception.

Nope, that is horrible and should not be the norm. You can't expect people to travel for your wedding AND front a cash or physical gift, and not feed them at your party.

Probably a good post for weddingdrama

Very tacky. Very not normal.

My dad is sober, so he had a cash bar at his wedding because a lot of his friends were also sober. But he made up for it with so much food. It was like six courses. And everyone was given a heads up that alcohol would not be free when he sent save the dates and the invitations.

Whoever hosted that wedding was very rude to not feed everyone.

this is not a dry wedding, this is just insane. expecting people to show up but not get anything to eat while some people get dinner is extremely out of the norm, never heard of this anywhere.

People should have at least beer & wine.

Terrible

The dry wedding discourse is one thing, but this!? That’s crazy, my logic is why even invite that many people if you as a host can’t afford to at least give all of them food and drinks.

I’m sorry you had to experience that, it isn’t the American to leave your guests unfed. WASPs don’t even host like that, this feels more like a lack of hosting. I feel like more people need to put their egos to the side and downsize their weddings because this sort of thing is embarrassing for both the couple and the guests