People don't understand how toxic masculinity works

my husband's father was the manliest man ever. landscaper, electrician, carpenter, hunter/outdoorsmen. even as rugged and masculine as he was, he still hugged his son, told him he loved him, and taught him to respect women (people in general) and that it was okay to cry.

I've known my husband 20 years now (we were friends as preteens) and married 10. his father passed a year before we married. I always think of him so fondly, a real father.

I'm just so glad my husband is kind, caring, and absolutely hilarious. I can't imagine even being around a man who holds those toxic masculinity ideals.

#notallbread is hilarious

Cinema Therapy has some really good takes and I like their format of how they use movies to illustrate their points.

Life is so much better when you live your life free of conforming to someone else's idea of how you should look/act/feel. All these toxic bros waste so much energy trying to impress other toxic dudes, it seems kinda gay actually

100% spot in. And to all haters, yes, this means toxic femininity is a thing too. Emotional manipulation, excessive gossiping, looks over personality, and complete dependence on a man are all things that could be defined as toxic femininity. All of us (men and women) have both feminine and masculine qualities, and any of those qualities can become toxic.

To get super woke, even awake, in Buddhism, there are the 4 Brahmavihara divine characteristics of the Buddha, and what I really love about them are the 4 near enemies, which are toxic versions of the virtues.

So we have:

1. Meta - Loving kindness - whose near enemy is greed your attached to something or someone for the wrong reason.
2. Karuṇā - Compassion - whose near enemy is pity, you recognize the suffering of others, but in a detached, selfish way.
3. Mudita - Sympathetic joy, you take pleasure in others' success, whose near enemy is jealousy; instead of merely being happy for someone else, you covet what they have.
4. Upekṣā - Equanimity - whose near enemy is apatathy.

This is a good framework because it recognizes that there are things that look like virtues but are subtly toxic in some way. There is a way to be generous in a toxic manner, Mr. Beast, anyone? There are ways to be kind in a toxic way, or happy, hardworking, you name it.

Hey that's from CinemaTherapy. I love their content.

It’s hilarious that there are MULTIPLE guys in this comment section still parroting the talking point this video debunks. We have to realize that these guys are not men misunderstanding adjectives, these are men happy to muddy the waters because they don’t want to look at problematic behaviors specific to men. They misunderstand on purpose so they don’t have to have the conversation.

Toxic to what, you ask?

The social fabric which binds us.

#NotAllBread

You can also point out the progress we've made as a society with father roles, while pointing out where there is still toxic masculinity today, and there will be people that will still be triggered and REEEEEEEEEE at this, lol.