Does anyone else feel like social media has stopped being social?

I've been thinking a lot about how social media has changed over the years.

Originally, the idea was pretty simple: connect with people, share things, discover communities, and have conversations.

But somewhere along the way, the focus shifted.

Today, almost everything seems to revolve around reach, engagement, impressions, followers, and algorithms. People are incentivized to post whatever gets the most attention, while platforms are incentivized to keep us scrolling for as long as possible.

And then there's the growing number of bots, AI-generated content, fake engagement, and accounts that aren't necessarily interested in genuine conversations.

It sometimes feels like we're all participating in a giant competition for attention instead of actually connecting with each other.

A small team I'm part of has been asking a question:

What would social media look like if we designed it around genuine human interaction instead of maximizing engagement?

We're actually working on a new decentralized social platform based on that idea.

We're not claiming we can solve every problem. But we believe that if you start from scratch, you can make fundamentally different decisions about how a social platform should work.

I'm curious what others think.

If you could change one fundamental thing about today's social media platforms, what would it be?

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AmarzzAelin•2 days ago•3

Capitalismo y sus derivas de siempre.

Old-Constant-7152•2 days ago•2

If I could change one fundamental thing, it would be eliminating public vanity metrics entirely (likes, follower counts, view counts).

When you remove the public scoreboard, people stop performing for the crowd and start actually conversing. As someone who analyzes audience behavior for a living, I can confidently say that the obsession with these visible numbers is exactly what incentivizes the fake engagement, bot farms, and AI-generated spam you mentioned.

Make the metrics private for the creator's eyes only (for analytics purposes), and you will instantly shift the platform's culture from a "competition for attention" back to a community.

BlisssSir•2 days ago•2

Of the majors other than Reddit, it’s all just marketing.

blengoususs•2 days ago•2

the diagnosis is spot on but the hard part isnt building something better, its getting people to switch when all their friends are still on the old thing. distribution is the real problem, not design. whats your actual plan for that?

Itsalljustenergy•2 days ago•2

Yes, true, internet is not social no more, nobody post their things anymore, everybody just watch reels

DragosFist•1 day ago•1

It used to be a "social network", when it became social media it starting getting worse and worse.

Now its not about connections with people you know. Its about having algorithmic crap shoved down your throat left right and centre with adverts

I deleted all mine quite some time ago as the isolation and alienation of this world is hard enough without those apps making it worse.

wearetheghost•about 19 hours ago•1

I made this app called Ghost Town which allows people to post ideas anonymously. AI handles all the like calculations which decides the thoughts that get attention with memes and content that the AI in the app creates. I’m now accepting people for beta testing but only 300. Please help me get the word out.

Buui-Mindfulness•about 18 hours ago•1

I'd bring back seeing posts from people I actually follow instead of whatever the algorithm wants me to watch. Social media feels more like entertainment TV now.

Buui-Mindfulness•about 18 hours ago•1

Do you think a new platform can realistically avoid falling into the same trap?

RockieK•1 day ago•1

Its the Entshitification:

Doctorow defines enshittification as the life cycle of digital platforms, characterized by three distinct phases:

The user-centric phase

In their infancy, platforms focus on delivering value to users. This is the golden age of a platform, when users find it incredibly useful, fun, or engaging. During this phase, platforms typically offer generous incentives, free services, and prioritize creating a seamless user experience. The goal here is to attract as many users as possible and gain a foothold in the market. Examples include Facebook in its early years, which was ad-free and centered around connecting friends, or Amazon, which offered discounts and free shipping to woo customers.

The business-centric phase

Once platforms have captured a significant user base, the focus shifts to attracting business customers. At this stage, the platform begins to prioritize advertisers, sellers, or third-party vendors, using the user base as leverage. In this phase, users start noticing subtle changes—ads become more frequent, algorithms promote sponsored content, and genuine organic experiences decline. The platform is no longer entirely for the user but also for paying business clients.

The self-centric phase

In the final phase, platforms begin exploiting both users and businesses to maximize their own profits. At this point, the quality of the user experience nosedives. Users are inundated with ads and manipulated by opaque algorithms designed to extract as much value as possible. Businesses, meanwhile, face rising costs and diminishing returns on their investment in the platform. For example, small sellers on Amazon are forced to compete with Amazon’s own branded products, while advertisers on Facebook contend with ever-increasing ad rates.

The platform, in its quest for short-term gains, undermines the very ecosystems it depends on, eventually leading to its decline.

I was only using Instagram and took the app off my phone nine months ago. I feel like it was a 20-year "coke bender".

It is now used as a "phone book" and reference for events. I check in a couple times a week, if that.

Anxiety is much better too.

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